What I’m about to tell you may seem counter-intuitive. Meaning, that it goes against what your gut is telling you to do, but that’s what makes this very effective.

The following, are the 3 things that you should do after your breakup:

1. Break off all communication with your ex. Meaning, no cell phone, no chatty chat, no instant messaging, no looking at their myspace, no reading their blog. no nothing. No communication at all, whatsoever.

If they try to talk to you, be very polite, yet firm and get out of the conversation quickly.

Say something like “I’m sorry, I’m right in the middle of something very important, I would like to talk to you, but it’s just not a good time right now.” End the call as quickly as you can at this point.

Why do you want to break off communication with your ex? That brings us to #2

2. Accept the breakup. Accept that your relationship, as you knew it, is over. Whatever the reason was, just accept it, and move on.

Don’t chase after your ex, don’t try to make them think about the good times or anything like that. Don’t try to show them how much you love them, or try to make them “see” anything. Accept the past for what it was and leave it be.

3. The third thing that you need to do, is to develop a plan of action.

If you think that you may want to get back together with your ex after you follow steps 1 and 2, then you need a plan of attack. You can’t just call them up out of the blue and expect to get back together with them.

Even if you do call them out of the blue, and they profess their undying love for you, then what? Are you really sure that this is what you want to do? I mean, you guys already broke up once, how do you know that you’re not going to breakup again?